Studio Nine

Biggest Fear – Going Through This World Alone

I recently listened to an interview where Lady Gaga spoke about finding “her one”—the person who truly sees her beyond the fame, the chaos, and the expectations. It got me thinking. If someone as successful, powerful, and seemingly untouchable as Lady Gaga still feels the weight of finding that connection, what does that say for the rest of us? The fear of going through this world alone is real, and in today’s society, it’s arguably more daunting than ever.

Celebrities and successful people the world over seem to settle when they find their person, create their best work, or calm their minds from all the mayhem. But for us mere mortals, finding “your person” is becoming harder and harder. Wariness about men, the manosphere, along with high expectations on both party fronts, means many of us are navigating relationships with a heightened sense of caution.

So what actually happens to the brain when we find that person? Why does it matter so much? And what if “your person” has been right in front of you all along—a best friend, a parent, a sibling? Science shows that when we connect deeply with someone, our brain undergoes real, measurable changes. The release of oxytocin (the bonding hormone) makes us feel safe, serotonin levels increase to enhance our mood, and cortisol (the stress hormone) drops, helping us feel calmer.

But it’s not just about brain chemistry—it’s about having a witness to our lives, someone who affirms our existence in a world that can sometimes feel indifferent. Humans are wired for connection, and whether it’s romantic or platonic, finding your person isn’t just about companionship; it’s about survival.

So, maybe the love of your life isn’t the fairytale romance you expected. Maybe it’s the friend who always shows up, the sibling who just gets it, or the mentor who guides you when you’re lost. The fear of being alone is real, but perhaps the answer isn’t to keep searching outward—it’s to look around and see who’s already standing beside you.

Check In With Yourself: Who’s Already There?

• Who do you turn to when things feel overwhelming?
• Who celebrates your wins, no matter how small?
• Who makes you feel safe, seen, and understood?
• Who do you trust implicitly?
• Who do you feel yourself around, without having to edit or filter?

What’s Missing?

• Do you crave deeper emotional connection with someone?
• Are you longing for romantic love, or is it simply companionship?
• Do you find yourself pushing people away due to past hurts?
• Are you showing up for others the way you want them to show up for you?
• Could “your person” already be there, just waiting for you to notice?

At the heart of it all, the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. Finding your person is beautiful, but finding the strength to love yourself first? That’s where the real magic happens.